Learning to Be Happy with Yourself
Benefits of Being Touchy-Feely

Benefits of Being Touchy-Feely

A lot of people pretend that feelings don't matter in life and then they spend much of their time trying to contain their emotions or redirect them in some way. When you don't deal with your feelings, you can't move past things that happened in the past and you'll be less happy. The same happens with being physically close to people because human beings feel more connected when they hug each other or touch in some positive way. You can't ignore the human need to feel wanted and bond meaningfully with others, it's part of living a genuine, fulfilled, happy life.

The benefits of being touchy-feely are that you are more aware of your emotions and can connect more meaningfully with others, and you're able to experience life on a deeper level. It's the people who can't understand their emotions or be kind or empathic who cause much of the unhappiness in the world. Thankfully, you can be a warm, kind, emotionally intelligent person no matter what's going on around you, and you'll be building a better, happier world while you do it.

Cheers,

Guy

How to Live in the Moment

How to Live in the Moment

Finding happiness means developing strategies and taking action in the moment or the present. A lot of people spend time living in the past or wondering about a hypothetical future instead of taking small steps in the present. It's your actions right now that will determine how you change what you've done in the past and influence what you'll achieve in the future. Here are some ideas on how to live in the moment:

  • Pay attention to what's going on around you right now. What does it look like, feel like, smell like, sound like? Pretend you're seeing things for the first time.
  • Think about how you feel inside at this moment. Feel whatever emotion is going on inside you without judging or being afraid of it, just feel it. Sense what's going on in your body.
  • Breathe. Notice how your breath goes in and out. Breathe slowly and deliberately.
  • Any time you think about the past or future, just remind yourself to focus on the present.
  • Do things you love doing.

The idea of living in the moment is to be conscious of what's going on inside and outside instead of clogging up your mind with all the other stuff that gets in the way of experiencing your wonderful self and the world around you.

Cheers,

Guy

Attention Seeking Behavior

Attention Seeking Behavior

We all want attention, even when it's for something negative. Humans are social beings who like to be noticed and feel like they matter. Happy people seek attention in positive ways such as through their own accomplishments or by sharing their gifts and talents with the world. Difficulties arise when you seek attention through someone else or based on something that isn't positive. Here are some examples of attention seeking behaviors to avoid:

  • Doing dangerous things or taking unnecessary risks so people will pay attention to you.
  • Creating conflict between people and then acting like a hero who comes in and solves things.
  • Pretending you have a life you don't so that people will be envious of you.
  • Hurting others so the spotlight is on you.
  • Behaving unethically to make sure you always win and get public recognition.
  • Constantly needing other people's approval or attention.
  • Trying to beat people at everything.
  • Bragging about your accomplishments, even nonexistent ones.
  • Acting like everything is about you.

When people's attention seeking behavior leads in an undesirable direction, it's time for them to reevaluate and change course or they'll never feel great about themselves. The only attention that will make you truly happy is attention based on a healthy, fulfilled you.

Cheers,

Guy

Happy People Do Meaningful Things

Happy People Do Meaningful Things

Happy people do meaningful things like:

  • Work on resolving their inner hurts.
  • Find what brings them joy in life and do it.
  • Build positive relationships.
  • Think and behave in ways that are fulfilling.
  • Live consciously and on purpose instead of reactively.
  • Continuously increase their self-awareness.
  • Do things that help others.
  • Build a better world for as many people as possible.

Happiness isn't an automatic state, it requires deliberate and ongoing effort.

Cheers,

Guy

Living in the Past Won’t Make You Happier

Living in the Past Won’t Make You Happier

The past can hold wonderful memories but it can also keep you stuck in a time period that no longer exists. The key to being happy is to remember the positive parts of the past but always be living and growing in the present. Think and do things that make you healthier and happier now and welcome changes into your life. Keep enjoying today and moving forward.

It's not that the past is some horrible thing you should stay away from, it's just that true happiness comes from being the real you in the present, doing things you love and living a life that is deeply meaningful to you right now.

Cheers,

Guy