Learning to Be Happy with Yourself
Compartmentalization Doesn’t Lead to Happiness

Compartmentalization Doesn’t Lead to Happiness


Compartmentalization doesn't lead to happiness yet countless people spend their entire lives pretending the awful stuff inside them doesn't exist. They literally take some part of their life they'd rather not examine, or that is too complex, and shove it in some dark corner of their minds instead of dealing with it and becoming a more well-rounded, balanced person.

It's very difficult to be happy when you think and behave differently in various parts of your life. For example: You say you value people but routinely do things that hurt them or you're very wealthy but don't have any close relationships. If one part of your life isn't working, it's impossible to pretend it's not happening, no matter how hard you try. It takes a lot of energy to try to ignore the parts of your life that aren't going well and it creates a situation where tension builds until something snaps.

Do some thinking about the areas in your life that aren't making you happy and work hard on bringing them into harmony and balance. You don't have to do it all at once, just one small step at a time.

Cheers,

Guy



Move Past Insecurity

Move Past Insecurity


Insecurity comes from not being fully aware and comfortable with the person you are deep inside. This self-doubt leads to all kinds of negative behaviors including:

  • Doing things you don't want to.
  • Saying things you don't want to say.
  • Living your life as someone else.
  • Treating other people poorly because you don't feel well about yourself.
  • Living in fear or constant defensiveness.
  • Never feeling like you're good enough.

The key to being happy in life is to let go of the junk that gets in the way of deeper joy and fulfillment. Take the time to discover who you are and live your life doing the things you love and being the person you really are.

Cheers,

Guy

When Things Don’t Go as Planned

When Things Don’t Go as Planned

Maybe you've endured a lot of hardship in life or had a bunch of bad days in a row, but there is always something to be learned, even when things don't go as planned. In my experience, the people who become happiest in the long run are those who have learned how to deal with change and adversity and are able to flex to meet the challenges. Here are some things you can do when life doesn't go as planned:

  • Take the time to reflect on what got you to this point and what lessons can be learned from what's happening.
  • Look forward to tomorrow with the knowledge that you'll know more then than you might today.
  • Keep taking small steps each day to continue building your happiness.
  • Celebrate your accomplishments.
  • Remember to do things that you enjoy, even in the middle of what seems like a crisis.
  • Resolve to think positively no matter what. Replace negative thoughts with ones that reframe the issue in a positive way.

It's impossible to live a life where everything always goes as planned. There will always be something unexpected that will create a diversion of some kind. Your task is to figure out how to meet even the most difficult challenges in a positive way.

Cheers,

Guy

How to Be Happy Starting Today

How to Be Happy Starting Today

Here's how to be happy starting today:

  1. Decide you want to be happy.
  2. Be ready to do the work necessary to be happy.
  3. Make a list of what your dream life looks like. Don't hold back, be completely truthful and write down whatever it is you really want to do in life.
  4. Pick one part of your dream life you want to start working on.
  5. Brainstorm some ideas on what you can do.
  6. Pick one item from your brainstorm and start working on it today.
  7. Congratulate yourself when you complete the task.

When you've completed one task, repeat the process again. The key to being happy starting today is to start working on it immediately and continue reaching for your dreams.

Cheers,

Guy

How to Be Happy: Breathe

How to Be Happy: Breathe

It’s easy to get caught up in all the things the world throws at you. Don’t forget to take the time to breathe so you can be happy. Take a deep breath, hold it while counting to five. Exhale and count to five as well at the end of the exhalation. Repeat this five times. The action of breathing slowly and deliberately will help you center yourself and become calmer.