Learning to Be Happy with Yourself
Finding Happiness within Yourself

Finding Happiness within Yourself


When people ask me how to be truly happy I answer that it requires finding happiness within yourself. So many people try to find fulfillment from the outside when all that really matters is discovering the answers that are already in you. Here are a few ideas to help you start finding happiness from within:

Find Inner Peace

You'll be closer to inner peace when you get rid of the noise that jars your system such as past hurts and unresolved issues. Find a way to meditate and clear your mind so you can relax and find balance. Some people find it helpful to breathe, others repeat a mantra over and over. Whatever works for you is great. Remember that finding inner peace is an ongoing process and you'll get better at it the more you practice.

Replace Negative Thoughts with Positive Ones

One of the best ways to counteract the effect of negative thoughts is to keep adding positive ones. Anytime a negative thought comes into your mind, replace it with one that helps you move in a positive direction. Instead of getting stuck thinking about all the things that are going wrong, try thinking about what could go well. Happy people make a conscious effort to keep adding positive thoughts into their minds instead of focusing on the negative.

Focus on the Things That Really Matter

A great way to be happy in life is to focus on the things that really matter. When all is said and done, it's not that important how much money you have or things you own, it's how much meaning you have in your life. At critical moments, people realize the importance of the deeper, more meaningful things in life: Saying I love you to someone, self-respect, learning, finding peace, hugging someone, talking with a child, caring for others, spending time with a friend and many other things that go beyond material possessions. What will you do to focus on the things that really matter?

Be Silly

One of the best ways to live a happy life is to be silly regularly. A lot of people think being silly makes them look dumb or weak but it's actually a great way to be happy and balanced. Make sure to have fun in life: Tell a few jokes, enjoy doing silly things, watch comedy movies or TV shows, read funny books, act kooky, laugh often and have fun with your friends and family. Life is only serious if you make it that way.

Dare to Be Creative

Right this moment you have the potential to think and act creatively. Creativity is a wonderful tool that helps you look at things from many perspectives and find amazing ways to make your life fuller and richer. Imagine a world where you get to create whatever is meaningful to you and be genuinely happy. What will you do to use your creativity?

Cheers,

Guy

Beauty Leads to Happiness

Beauty Leads to Happiness

Beauty leads to happiness, but not in the way most people think. I'm not referring to physical appearance leading to contentment, I'm talking about all the wonderful things around you that can make your life deeply joyful. Many people spend their entire lives living without any beauty (kindness, wonder, laughter, softness) around them but there is always the opportunity available to appreciate what's going on inside you and in your environment.

Take time each day to admire all the beauty around you. Enjoy beauty through nature, art, literature, architecture, music, humor, people watching or simply contemplate the beautiful things in your life or in the world in general. Celebrate how beautiful you are inside and all the wonderful things you do. There is so much beauty around you, you can tap into it at any moment to feel great about yourself and the world you live in, and none of it has to do with physical looks.

Cheers,

Guy

Being Open-Minded Leads to Happiness

Being Open-Minded Leads to Happiness

Being open-minded can make you happier because it allows you to enjoy a wider range of experiences instead of living based on safety, avoidance, or fear. It's easy to become complacent and comfortable, especially if things are going somewhat well for you, but it can very quickly lead to stagnation and closed-mindedness. Here are some things you might invite into your life to broaden your horizons:

  • New ideas.
  • New beliefs.
  • New friends.
  • A new career path.
  • A new way of looking at yourself.
  • New music or books.
  • Going back to school.
  • Thinking and acting in new ways.
  • Moving beyond the stuff that used to hold you back.
  • Being more open to new experiences.

Being happy means welcoming new thoughts and experiences into your life and growing along the way. Otherwise, you might miss out on the chance to live a wonderfully fulfilling, joyful, authentic, rich, multicolored life.

Cheers,

Guy

What Is Happiness?

What Is Happiness?

People define happiness in countless different ways but there are certain things that generally lead toward a joyful life experience. Here are some examples of what happiness is:

  • Knowing yourself well.
  • Being as healthy as possible inside and out.
  • Treating yourself and others with kindness and compassion.
  • Making the world a better place for yourself and as many other people as possible.
  • Seeing the possibilities.
  • Being willing to change and adapt.
  • Living life as the real you rather than trying to be someone else.
  • Following your own path in life.
  • Healing your hurts.
  • Realizing that happiness is a journey rather than a destination.
  • Letting go of what doesn't work.
  • Thinking, feeling and behaving positively.

Happiness is whatever you define it to be. You'll know you're experiencing it when you feel a general sense of balance and fulfillment because you're living life as yourself and taking action each day to make your dreams come true.

Cheers,

Guy

Do Things That Lead to Happiness

Do Things That Lead to Happiness

I've coached many people who genuinely want to be happy and then do things like:

  • Be rude to people.
  • Work out their personal stuff on others.
  • Don't pursue their dreams.
  • Live in fear rather than with courage.

The key to living a joyful, fulfilling, meaningful life is to do things that lead to happiness, for example:

  • Being kind to yourself and others.
  • Healing your own personal stuff.
  • Working actively to make your dreams come true.
  • Having the courage to live as the real you.

You get to choose your path in life, make sure you're doing things that help you be happy.

Cheers,

Guy