No one can make you happy but you, which is easier said than done because a lot of people don't know what to do to be happy. Here are some ideas to help you out:
You Can’t Force Happiness
If you’ve ever met someone who acts overly happy, to the point where they seem to be putting on a show, then you know what it looks like to force happiness. Being genuinely happy doesn’t come from acting superficially peppy, it arises from being deeply satisfied with who you are as a person; how you think and behave. When you live genuinely, you won’t have to force any feeling, it will just happen.
Pay Attention to Your Assumptions
Your assumptions play a big part in whether you’re happy. For example: If you assume that someone is going to be mean then you’re less likely to initiate contact or get to know them. Here’s another example: You assume that you can’t do a certain thing and you increase the chances that you won’t try to do it. When you assume something you’re trying to predict an outcome rather than looking at whatever is in front of you as an opportunity to learn and grow. Happy people assume less and get excited about learning new things, meeting new people and having new experiences.
Manage Your Expectations
When you set out to accomplish a goal or making your dreams come true you might have a specific picture of what it looks like, accompanied by expectations about what you’ll do and what it will be like. You’ll find that you’ll be much happier if you let go of expectations and just enjoy the journey. Too many people get discouraged or disappointed when things don’t turn out a certain way when they could be happy about the great things they’re doing every day.
Happiness and Your Activities
To be happy in life it’s important to do activities that make sense to you and reflect your interests and passions. Fill your days with activities that resonate inside you and bring you joy and fulfillment instead of things that really don’t matter. You’ll know you’re doing meaningful things because you’ll feel like it’s effortless and energizing.
Let Go of the Need to Control Everything
A lot of people spend incredible amounts of energy trying to control the events or the people in their lives. This happens because they feel out of control deep inside and, instead of looking at themselves, they compensate by trying to control everything else. In order to be truly happy, the only person you have to control is you. Learn how to manage your own issues and become the most healthy and whole person you can be and you’ll feel much more powerful.
There will be times in your life when you make mistakes or wish you hadn’t done something. There is no way to change the past, so the best thing you can do is to make amends and learn from the experience so you don’t repeat it. The ability to move on doesn’t mean that you ignore what’s happened, it just demonstrates that you’re able to heal what you did in the past and, if it involves other people, you’re able to make sure they’re OK. Being happy in life is an ongoing process of learning from your experiences and moving on and forward.