How do you feel happy? You just work at it. There's no other way to be happy in life but to look deep inside yourself and take action every day to move in a positive direction. Here are some things you can do to help you feel happier:
If you're afraid of change you'll find yourself missing out on exciting opportunities and resisting new ideas and experiences that can make your life more enjoyable. People who are happy realize that change is a constant and that they can use it to learn, grow and become stronger.
A bamboo plant bends in in high winds whereas a mighty oak tries to stay firm and gets knocked down. You get to decide whether you resist the events that come your way or go with the flow and be more happy. By resisting less, you'll be more flexible and able to deal with the challenges you'll face in life. Being flexible doesn't mean giving up your dreams or way of being, it just means that you choose to not struggle with everything.
Every day is an opportunity to give or to keep everything for yourself. You can choose to give of your time, knowledge, money or resources or you can keep everything for yourself. There is one path that will help you feel deeply happy: Giving on a regular basis to people and organizations that don't benefit you directly. This approach will help you think and behave with generosity in all parts of your life because you are giving just for the sake of giving rather than because you have an interest at stake.
It's nearly impossible to be happy if you don't trust yourself or other people. Trust means that you believe in yourself and others enough to do the things necessary to live a fulfilling life. A great way to build your ability to trust is to pick one area of your life, something you currently do where you don't feel comfortable letting go, and decide to work on it anyway regardless of the outcome. Keep practicing and building yourself up little by little, work on yourself first and then help others achieve success like you.
A lot of people think they'll be happy if they can just control everything others do. The irony is that this type of behavior is practiced by individuals who feel out of control deep inside. The key to finding balance and happiness in life is to work on the issues that make you want to control other people and find ways to control yourself instead. Heal yourself first and be genuinely happy and you won't have the need to run other people's lives.
Let Go of What Doesn't Work
A major element of being happy is recognizing that not everything you do leads to positive results. A lot of people hang on to behaviors that don't yield beneficial results just because they don't know what else to do. The key to helping yourself succeed is to let go of what doesn't work and keep what does.
Try doing things like these and, over time, you'll be much happier.