You know instantly when you’re doing something that is positive or that leads you in another, less beneficial direction. If you try to kid yourself into pretending that you’re happy or doing something positive when you’re not, you’ll have to deal with the consequences. It takes a lot of energy to kid yourself and you won’t get the results in life that you can when you follow an authentic path.
You can appear to be really happy on the outside when you're actually miserable inside. The key to being genuinely happy in life is to be fulfilled and balanced on the inside. It means living your life according to your natural talents and abilities and consistently thinking and behaving in positive ways. Worry less about what you look like to others and more about how meaningful your life is.
It's easy to over think your way into being less happy by thinking of all the things that might happen or didn't happen or could have happened or won't happen. It's wise to think before you act but not to the point that you paralyze yourself and never do anything. Find your happy balance point where you think before you do something but not so much that you're afraid to take a step or handle a situation.
Many people want to learn how to let go of the past and be happy but don’t know what to do because they’ve always done things a certain way. The key to being able to let go of things is to take action.
A lot of people wish they could move beyond challenges but don’t fully commit to doing it. It takes conscious and ongoing effort to change anything in your life. Here are some ideas to help you let go of the past:
- Pick one thing you want to let go of.
- Choose an alternative, some thought or action to replace what you used to do.
- Every time you try to feel, think or do the old thing, replace it with the new one.
- Repeat this action for at least thirty days.
- Evaluate how you’re doing after thirty days. If you’re still doing the old thing, pick a new thing to replace it and practice that for thirty days.
- Continue this process until you don’t do the old thing.
To be truly happy you have to be able to let go of past hurts. The good news is that you can do it whenever you decide to, as long as you’re willing to do the work necessary to move forward positively.
A lot of people pretend that feelings don't matter in life and then they spend much of their time trying to contain their emotions or redirect them in some way. When you don't deal with your feelings, you can't move past things that happened in the past and you'll be less happy. The same happens with being physically close to people because human beings feel more connected when they hug each other or touch in some positive way. You can't ignore the human need to feel wanted and bond meaningfully with others, it's part of living a genuine, fulfilled, happy life. What will you do to be more touch-feely?