As you continue your journey to be happy you might fall into the pattern of only focusing on what's not going well. Whenever you feel that way, take a moment to redirect your thoughts to something positive. Think about the great things you've accomplished and pat yourself on the back for the things you have done rather than those you haven't. Try not to dwell on what's not working and refocus on what has worked.
Living your dreams means doing what you love. I’m not talking about the dreams where you are riding a horse through a shopping mall, I'm referring to the dreams that reflect what you really want to do with your life, your true self, like when you were a child and wished you could be an actor or when you graduated from high school and wanted to be a great mathematician.
Life has a way of dampening people's aspirations but it doesn’t have to be like that. You can literally tap into your dreams at any time and give them the prominent place in your life they deserve. Ask yourself the following questions as you connect with what you really want to do with your life.
1. If money or subsistence were of no concern, what would I do with my life above all else?
2. What am I really good at that brings me joy and I could do forever?
3. What career path would bring me true joy in life?
4. What can I do for hours without thinking about time?
The answers to these questions will help you start steering your life toward what you really want to do. You get to decide in what direction you move. You choose whether you follow the path toward your dreams or follow an alternate course. Where will you start?
People get trapped in all kinds of difficult situations because they make decisions based on their emotions rather than observable evidence. For example: You stay in a relationship where the person treats you poorly because your emotions tell you that things will get better rather than going on what you actually observe in the relationship. To be truly happy in life, it's important to pay attention to how people behave, not just what they say or how they make you feel. What will you do to keep your eyes open?
A lot of people think that happiness comes from some external source when it's inside them the whole time. You have the answers as to what is meaningful to you and who you are at the deepest level. No outside influence can tell you what your heart has inside it. You're the only one who can make it happen by believing in yourself.
You'll never truly enjoy life if you don't make yourself happy first. Here are some ideas on how to do it:
Admit What’s Really Going On
If you want to be much happier in life then make it a point to admit what’s really going on inside and around you. People tend to avoid difficult subjects or situations, especially when they know at a deeper level that they’ve played a part in complicating things. A much more positive strategy is to simply acknowledge what you’ve done and then learn and grow from it. Happy people realize they’re not perfect and are eager to keep improving themselves.
A great way to be happy is to take action. A lot of people stay stuck because they only think about what they want to do instead of actually doing something. Think about your goals and dreams and take a small action today. Don't put it off, just do something. You'll feel much better about yourself and your actions will add up to significant gains over time.
One of the reasons that people want change is to live a meaningful, fulfilling life after they’ve put up with everything else for years and years. They want to be happy. The key in life is to actively make your dreams come true and live from that place inside you that knows who you really are. The more authentic your life, the more opportunities will come your way that feel like a good fit. You won’t have to settle because you’ll be listening to your inner voice.
Spend Time Alone
Some people need to be surrounded by others at all times or haven’t experienced what it’s like to not be in romantic relationship. A significant part of being genuinely happy is being able to spend time alone to get to know who you are without other people in the picture. As important as the people in your life might be, they’re not you. It takes deliberate effort to find out what kind of person you are when you’re on your own and what you want to do in life. The key to happiness is to discover your own path.
Remember That You Deserve to Be Happy
A lot of people grow up in families where it’s not OK to be happy or where nobody knew how to do it. As adults, they feel like it’s not acceptable or appropriate to experience joy and fulfillment. The whole point to living a meaningful, rewarding life is to find out who you are deep inside and celebrate your amazing talents and gifts every day by doing things you love. You deserve to be happy because you’re you and you’re worth it.