Learning to Be Happy with Yourself
Happiness and Hurting People

Happiness and Hurting People


If you have a career or lifestyle that directly hurts people you’re likely limiting your own happiness. That’s because you can’t hurt others without having it affect you. Each time you do something negative toward someone it takes away part of the positive energy inside you and replaces it with negativity. After a while you’ll deplete your positivity reservoir and it will be filled with negativity.

You can’t pretend to be happy and no amount of money or diversions can make  you feel better because it takes a lot of energy to pretend you’re doing well when you’re full of negative energy. The only remedy is to be kind and not hurt people. When you treat others well you replenish the good energy in your life and create positive waves in the world.

Cheers,

Guy

Discover What Makes You Happy

Discover What Makes You Happy

It's important to discover what makes you happy on a deeper level so you can live a joyful and meaningful life. Think in terms of:

  • What you really love to do.
  • Who you really are deep inside.
  • What brings you deep satisfaction.
  • What makes you feel fulfilled.
  • What helps you feel healthy and balanced inside.
  • What brings you peace and calm.
  • What fills you with deeper, long-term happiness.

It takes time to figure out what brings you authentic joy but when you find it you can enjoy life to its fullest.

Cheers,

Guy

5 Ideas on How to Be Happy with Yourself

5 Ideas on How to Be Happy with Yourself

Here are five ideas on how to be happy with yourself:

Avoid Self-Delusion

There are many people walking around who say they are a certain way and then behave completely differently. This type of self-delusion is common because people have a hard time admitting that they have areas they might need to work on. It's difficult to change your behavior but you'll be much more happy if you're willing to take an honest look at yourself and make small changes to behave more positively.

The "Who Am I" Exercise

Try this happiness building exercise: Get  a piece of paper and write down, "Who am I?" Take exactly one minute to answer the question and write down as many ideas as you can. Stop after one minute and see what you have. Ask yourself if what you wrote genuinely reflects your dreams and passions. Practice this exercise every day until you feel like you've identified who you really are.

Take Care of Yourself

A big part of being happy is the ability to take care of yourself, from your basic needs to your emotional well-being. This doesn't mean that you take care of others at your expense, it refers to making sure you're as healthy as possible and then caring for others. Treat other people with care, kindness and compassion and you'll make your life richer and more purposeful.

Don't Be Afraid to Change Your Views

People often get stuck in life or limit their ability to be happy because they believe the world is a certain way. Then something changes that doesn't fit their perspective and they become scared, upset or disoriented. When your view of the world doesn't help you consistently feel joy or allow you to cope with the challenges that come your way, then it's a great time to find some new ideas.

Shine

When you live an authentic life you're able to shine brightly. It's much more satisfying and fulfilling to show the world your natural talents and abilities than to be recognized for doing something that you don't really enjoy and that doesn't reflect the real you. Do what you love and you'll feel happy, whole and a lot shinier.

Try these ideas and you'll be on your way to being far more happy with yourself. What would you add?

Cheers,

Guy

How to Be Happy at Work

How to Be Happy at Work

It's easy to fall into a pattern where you're not very satisfied doing your job. Here are some ideas to help you be more happy at work:

  • Do meaningful work. When you're job hunting, look for work that reflects what you really love doing. Take some extra time to identify what you genuinely enjoy doing and then look for jobs related to that.
  • Prioritize your tasks from most to least important. Work on the most important tasks first rather than putting them off and worrying about them while you're doing less vital things.
  • Check your email last. Do more important tasks first before you get sidetracked by your emails.
  • Think about what's going well. Emphasize the parts of your job that you enjoy. Have ongoing conversations with you supervisor about designing your job so that you get to do the parts you like the most.
  • Delegate. Give the jobs that don't float your boat to others who like doing those things. Focus on what you do well and where you want to grow.
  • Look for ways to build relationships. Treat the people around you well and connect with them on a meaningful level. Identify the things you have in common and ways you can collaborate.
  • Look for opportunities to learn and grow. Go to trainings, workshops or back to school so you can keep your brain nimble and continue to grow.
  • Think of new ideas. Use your talents and abilities to come up with new projects or new ways you can help the organization succeed.
  • Monitor your attitude. You get to decide whether you focus on the positive or negative. Which will you choose?

Being happy at works depends on your conscious behaviors, do things that are positive and you'll feel much better about yourself and your workplace.

Cheers,

Guy