Learning to Be Happy with Yourself
Welcome to Learning How to Be Happy with Yourself

Welcome to Learning How to Be Happy with Yourself

Have you given up on being happy?

It's hard and even scary to figure out how to be truly happy with yourself. That's why I created this blog: To help thoughtful people like you really be happy deep down inside.

I'm happiness coach Guy Farmer and I love helping open-minded people learn how to be happy with themselves. You're cordially invited to browse or search my site for tips on how to be happy with yourself.

 


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Guy

Tough People Aren’t Happy, They’re Miserable

Tough People Aren’t Happy, They’re Miserable

There are a lot of people out their who act really tough on the outside and will even tell you that they're happy although they are deeply miserable inside. The good news is that nobody has to live this way, even if your life has been a horrible series of unfortunate nightmares you can still turn things around and move toward happiness. Here are three key ideas to help you get started:

Choose How to React

There are many events and situations in life that require you to choose how to react. If you perceive things as negative you’ll move in that direction, if you look at things as manageable you’ll go down another path. Some people choose to be endlessly angry and stressed, others prefer to go with the flow and focus on the positive. Happy individuals tend to react in helpful, hopeful, productive ways in even the most difficult circumstances. It’s the difference between someone who sees everything as a catastrophe and stays stuck and another who learns and grows from each experience. It’s entirely up to you how you react to the people and events in your life, choose a positive perspective and you’ll live much more happily.

Stop Acting Tough

Have you ever met someone who acts really tough but falls apart at the smallest provocation? A lot of people are raised in environments where they can’t show vulnerability or be the soft, kind people they really are. They grow up thinking that being tough is the way to get what they want. It’s nearly impossible to be tough and happy at the same time because toughness leads to not connecting with yourself and others on a meaningful level. It has a way of distancing you from yourself and the people around you. Take some time to think about how you can let your guard down and show people how wonderful you are deep inside.

The Touchy-Feely Stuff Matters

A lot of people have had difficult lives and haven't been shown or allowed to reveal their softer sides. They think that emotions are a sign of weakness and are to be avoided at all costs. To be happy in life, it's a good idea to learn how to deal with all your emotions. Once you're comfortable with your touchy-feely side you'll feel more balanced and you'll connect with yourself and other people on a deeper level. Knowing how to experience the touchy-feely stuff is precisely what leads to happiness.

Cheers,

Guy

An Unconventional Approach to Being Happy with Yourself

An Unconventional Approach to Being Happy with Yourself

Here is an unconventional approach to learning how to be happy with yourself. Think carefully about each idea and how you might apply it to your own life. It's the process of working through each of these concepts that will help you be happy.

Be Sincere

The more sincere you are in life the more happy you'll be. Being sincere means that you say what you mean and mean what you say. People can count on you to tell the truth and you try hard not to have hidden agendas or tricks up your sleeve. Being sincere doesn't mean being rude or ruthless, just that you don't manipulate people and you treat them honestly and fairly.

Remember Your Strengths

You have natural strengths (your way of thinking, talents and abilities) that you were born with and can use to live a wonderful, happy life. All you have to do is take some time to discover what you're good at doing and make sure you do those things every day. Focus on the thoughts and actions that bring you joy and fulfillment and you won't have to worry as much about doing things that you're not interested in doing.

Feed Your Brain

Your brain needs regular sustenance to feel and work its best. This doesn't just apply to the healthy food you eat, it means continuing to learn and grow as you go through life. Some people decide that they're finished learning and that they can't expand their minds any more. They get comfortable with what they know and don't veer from it. You have a choice as to whether you stop growing or continue to feed your brain so that it has fresh, exciting information to help you live a great life.

Keep Your Mind Open

It's hard to experience all that life has to offer if you don't keep your mind open. When you close yourself off to new ideas, information or experiences, you've told yourself and the world that you're finished learning and growing. People sometimes choose this path because they feel overwhelmed. The key to being truly happy in life is to continue being open to all the wonderful ideas, experiences, people, events and opportunities around you.

Live as the Real You

You can't be happy in life if you don't live it as the real you. Many people live their lives based on what they think others want them to do or because they settle for whatever comes their way. The key to living a genuinely happy life is to think and behave consciously: Do things that bring you joy and that reflect who you are deep inside and be the real you.

Being happy isn't about just hoping it happens, it requires continuous and conscious effort. I'd love to hear from you about what insights you gained and how your life shifted when you tried these ideas.

Cheers,

Guy

Gratitude Leads to Happiness

Gratitude Leads to Happiness

Whenever you feel a lack of happiness, take moment to shift your feelings by being grateful for what you have. Make a list of the things that you appreciate in your life, read them out loud and give thanks for each one. When you focus more on being happy about what you have rather than what you don't, you leave behind the feelings of dissatisfaction that can keep you from living a joyful and fulfilling life.

Here are some examples of things you can be grateful for:

  • Being alive.
  • Having the ability to think for yourself.
  • The opportunity to be yourself.
  • The ability to do things to be happy.
  • Your positive friends and family.
  • The opportunity you have to think positively.
  • Creativity.
  • The beauty of the natural world.
  • The ability to manage your feelings, thoughts, and emotions.
  • How wonderful you are.
  • Love for yourself and others.

Every day is an opportunity to appreciate all kinds of things, you get to decide whether you move in the direction of gratitude and happiness.

Cheers,

Guy

Be an Artist

Be an Artist

Be an artist to be happy in life. What does that mean? It doesn't mean that you have to learn how to paint or be a sculptor overnight, just live your life artistically by:

  • Being willing to do things that are different.
  • Being willing to look at the deeper stuff in life.
  • Being willing to go against the grain.
  • Being willing to follow your own inner voice.
  • Being willing to be yourself no matter what people say.
  • Being willing to live your life as the real you.

Whoever you truly are deep inside, that's where your power resides. Take the time to discover the creative person you have within you and enjoy your journey.

Cheers,

Guy

Be Nice to Be Happy

Be Nice to Be Happy

A big part of finding happiness is how you behave in life. Certain behaviors lead in certain direction and a certain type of results. Think about the person who lies, cheats and steals his way to success. He (or she) may have amazing wealth or power, but there will always be something missing because they got there practicing negative behaviors.

The key to being happy in life is to be nice so that you can experience the peace of mind that comes from knowing you behaved in a way that was kind, honorable and ethical. Being nice doesn't mean being weak, it refers to conducting yourself in ways that encourage kindness and build harmony. Ultimately, being nice helps you enjoy life more because you don't have to worry about all the repercussions that come from behaving negatively.

Cheers,

Guy