Learning to Be Happy with Yourself
Discover What Makes You Happy

Discover What Makes You Happy

It's important to discover what makes you happy on a deeper level so you can live a joyful and meaningful life. Think in terms of:

  • What you really love to do.
  • Who you really are deep inside.
  • What brings you deep satisfaction.
  • What makes you feel fulfilled.
  • What helps you feel healthy and balanced inside.
  • What brings you peace and calm.
  • What fills you with deeper, long-term happiness.

It takes time to figure out what brings you authentic joy but when you find it you can enjoy life to its fullest. What will you do to discover what makes you happy?

5 Ideas on How to Be Happy with Yourself

5 Ideas on How to Be Happy with Yourself

Here are five ideas on how to be happy with yourself:

Avoid Self-Delusion

There are many people walking around who say they are a certain way and then behave completely differently. This type of self-delusion is common because people have a hard time admitting that they have areas they might need to work on. It's difficult to change your behavior but you'll be much more happy if you're willing to take an honest look at yourself and make small changes to behave more positively.

The "Who Am I" Exercise

Try this happiness building exercise: Get  a piece of paper and write down, "Who am I?" Take exactly one minute to answer the question and write down as many ideas as you can. Stop after one minute and see what you have. Ask yourself if what you wrote genuinely reflects your dreams and passions. Practice this exercise every day until you feel like you've identified who you really are.

Take Care of Yourself

A big part of being happy is the ability to take care of yourself, from your basic needs to your emotional well-being. This doesn't mean that you take care of others at your expense, it refers to making sure you're as healthy as possible and then caring for others. Treat other people with care, kindness and compassion and you'll make your life richer and more purposeful.

Don't Be Afraid to Change Your Views

People often get stuck in life or limit their ability to be happy because they believe the world is a certain way. Then something changes that doesn't fit their perspective and they become scared, upset or disoriented. When your view of the world doesn't help you consistently feel joy or allow you to cope with the challenges that come your way, then it's a great time to find some new ideas.


When you live an authentic life you're able to shine brightly. It's much more satisfying and fulfilling to show the world your natural talents and abilities than to be recognized for doing something that you don't really enjoy and that doesn't reflect the real you. Do what you love and you'll feel happy, whole and a lot shinier.

Try these ideas and you'll be on your way to being far more happy with yourself. What would you add?



How to Be Happy at Work

How to Be Happy at Work

It's easy to fall into a pattern where you're not very satisfied doing your job. Here are some ideas to help you be more happy at work:

  • Do meaningful work. When you're job hunting, look for work that reflects what you really love doing. Take some extra time to identify what you genuinely enjoy doing and then look for jobs related to that.
  • Prioritize your tasks from most to least important. Work on the most important tasks first rather than putting them off and worrying about them while you're doing less vital things.
  • Check your email last. Do more important tasks first before you get sidetracked by your emails.
  • Think about what's going well. Emphasize the parts of your job that you enjoy. Have ongoing conversations with you supervisor about designing your job so that you get to do the parts you like the most.
  • Delegate. Give the jobs that don't float your boat to others who like doing those things. Focus on what you do well and where you want to grow.
  • Look for ways to build relationships. Treat the people around you well and connect with them on a meaningful level. Identify the things you have in common and ways you can collaborate.
  • Look for opportunities to learn and grow. Go to trainings, workshops or back to school so you can keep your brain nimble and continue to grow.
  • Think of new ideas. Use your talents and abilities to come up with new projects or new ways you can help the organization succeed.
  • Monitor your attitude. You get to decide whether you focus on the positive or negative. Which will you choose?

Being happy at works depends on your conscious behaviors, do things that are positive and you'll feel much better about yourself and your workplace.



Finding Happiness within Yourself

Finding Happiness within Yourself

When people ask me how to be truly happy I answer that it requires finding happiness within yourself. So many people try to find fulfillment from the outside when all that really matters is discovering the answers that are already in you. Here are a few ideas to help you start finding happiness from within:

Find Inner Peace

You'll be closer to inner peace when you get rid of the noise that jars your system such as past hurts and unresolved issues. Find a way to meditate and clear your mind so you can relax and find balance. Some people find it helpful to breathe, others repeat a mantra over and over. Whatever works for you is great. Remember that finding inner peace is an ongoing process and you'll get better at it the more you practice.

Replace Negative Thoughts with Positive Ones

One of the best ways to counteract the effect of negative thoughts is to keep adding positive ones. Anytime a negative thought comes into your mind, replace it with one that helps you move in a positive direction. Instead of getting stuck thinking about all the things that are going wrong, try thinking about what could go well. Happy people make a conscious effort to keep adding positive thoughts into their minds instead of focusing on the negative.

Focus on the Things That Really Matter

A great way to be happy in life is to focus on the things that really matter. When all is said and done, it's not that important how much money you have or things you own, it's how much meaning you have in your life. At critical moments, people realize the importance of the deeper, more meaningful things in life: Saying I love you to someone, self-respect, learning, finding peace, hugging someone, talking with a child, caring for others, spending time with a friend and many other things that go beyond material possessions. What will you do to focus on the things that really matter?

Be Silly

One of the best ways to live a happy life is to be silly regularly. A lot of people think being silly makes them look dumb or weak but it's actually a great way to be happy and balanced. Make sure to have fun in life: Tell a few jokes, enjoy doing silly things, watch comedy movies or TV shows, read funny books, act kooky, laugh often and have fun with your friends and family. Life is only serious if you make it that way.

Dare to Be Creative

Right this moment you have the potential to think and act creatively. Creativity is a wonderful tool that helps you look at things from many perspectives and find amazing ways to make your life fuller and richer. Imagine a world where you get to create whatever is meaningful to you and be genuinely happy. What will you do to use your creativity?